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A witty and profoundly disturbing analysis of the psychology of argument by a psychologist who set out to prove there was a minimal difference between men and women and ended up demonstrating the opposite.
--The Good Book Guide

Impressive and meticulously researched ...Knowledge is power; and I would regard the chapter on the female boss as essential reading for the woman wishing to get ahead in male-dominated working environments... Everything Mapstone had to say about male attitudes and psychology rang true to me.
--Dr Michael Lockwood, Oxford Journal

Mapstone has written that rarest of things, the psychology self-help book that doesn't compromise on academic integrity.
-- The Richmond Review

A highly accessible and fascinating book.
-- Womens Press Book Club

... best in the field...
-- Liverpool Daily Post

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Original softback edition

Published by Chatto & Windus 1998
ISBN 0 7011 6667 3
pp 360, £10.99.

Now in paperback

Published by Vintage, 1999
ISBN 0 09 976361 3
pp 360, £7.99

Also in Chinese

Contents

PART ONE: ARGUMENT AND HUMPTY DUMPTY

1. Debate or Battle: Men Define Argument
2. Friendship, Fear and Anger: Women Talk about Quarrels
3. Humpty Dumpty and the Search for Truth
4. Argument and the Division of Labour

PART TWO: THE PORCUPINE'S DILEMMA

5. Friendship: Woman to Woman
6. Friendship: Man to Man
7. Lovers' Tiffs
8. The Anger Problem
9. Of Families and Feuds: Simply Hating Mother
10. Iron John and the Flight To Father
11. Of Families and Feuds: Some Conclusions

PART THREE: JANUS-FACED IN A 'POST-FEMINIST' WORLD

12. Arguing at Leisure
13. Arguing With a Stranger
14. Whodunnit? Making Sense of the Argument
15. 'You Are, Sir, My Obedient Servant'
16. Living With a Stranger
17. Playing Power Games
18. Facing the Future

PART FOUR: PLAYING THE GENDER GAME AT WORK

19. Women Who Feel They Are Winning
20. The Male Boss
21. The Female Boss
22. The View from Below: Having a Female Boss
23. The View from Below: Having a Male Boss
24. Equals: Men Undermining their Female Colleagues
25. Equals: Women Reasoning with their Male Colleagues
26. Equals: Women Discussing Differences with Women
27. Equals: Men Battling with Men
28. Arguing with an Audience
29. Shouting across the Canyon

PART FIVE: BUILDING A GOLDEN BRIDGE

30. Trapped between a Hormone and a Hard Social Place
31. Power Games
32. Calling a Truce